If you don’t know about “benevolent sexism” then you have probably been guilty of it on a regular basis without even knowing it. Since gamers are apparently among the most sexist of all sexists, it would not be surprising if every single man who plays video games has committed these insidious acts which supposedly “justify women’s subordinate status to men”. What are some of these horrible acts that when committed condemn men to contemptible sexist status? From the recent Northeastern University study “Nonverbal and Verbal Expressions of Men’s Sexism in Mixed-Gender Interactions“:
During the trivia game, men with more benevolent sexism were perceived to be more patient overall when waiting for the woman to answer the trivia questions.
Being patient with a woman is a sign of sexism. Got it.
…opening a car door for a woman may reflect simple politeness that would be extended to anyone; however, it could also reflect benevolent sexist attitudes if the man does it because of his assumption that men are more competent than women and that women should be pampered or protected by men, and his action may, in his subjective opinion, be positive and not at all sexist in the traditional sense
Opening doors for women is sexist. Never again.
…men’s benevolent sexism predicted more smiling
Yes, apparently smiling at a woman is also sexist.
…benevolent sexism is attractive ideologically for women because they may find it difficult to resist the allure of sexism in such a form. After all, benevolent sexist men hold women in high regards and are willing to sacrifice themselves to protect and save women
A man who is willing to give his life for a woman is sexist? So, men being willing to sacrifice their very lives to protect women is actually bad for women.
…research has found that women generally rated benevolent sexists more favorably than hostile sexists, and they are less likely to perceive benevolent sexism as “sexism
How could that be? What kind of idiot would think that a man who is willing to die for her isn’t actually just being sexist towards her? Clearly, a man giving his life for the benefit of a woman is evidence of sexism—committed by the man.
…in certain countries such as Cuba and Nigeria, women even endorsed benevolent sexism to a higher degree than men did
Shocking. Women endorsed men dying to protect them more than men did.
…benevolent sexism was associated with more patience, more smiling, higher nonverbal impressions of affiliation (average of approachable, friendly, and warm impressions), and more usage of positive emotion words.
To reiterate: opening doors for women, smiling at women, being patient with women, being willing to lay down your life for a woman, and generally being pleasant when interacting with women are all considered signs of “benevolent sexism”.
We Must Eradicate Benevolent Sexism From Gaming
So gentlemen, now that these actions have been determined to be “sexist”, we should not conduct ourselves in this despicable fashion any longer. All male gamers should avoid committing any of these sexist sins not only in their daily lives, but while gaming as well. If you have been guilty of being a despicable (benevolent) sexist, your attitude when dealing with females should change drastically.
During every interaction with a female player, keep in mind what constitutes benevolent sexism and avoid perpetuating this wickedness. Think twice before complementing a female player on her kill-streak, avoid using “positive emotion words” at all costs, and don’t even consider sacrificing your virtual life to save that of a female even if she is on your team.
In order to not be guilty of benevolent sexism, it would seem that male gamers should also have no patience when dealing with female gamer incompetence. Apparently, they should treat gamer girls as they would a fellow male gamer that they dislike immensely. Guys should not hesitate to use any underhanded strategy to defeat a girl gamer. They may be called some derogatory term when using cheap tactics to beat a girl, but it wont be “benevolent sexist”. A male gamer conducting himself in this manner will prove he harbors no benevolent sexism, but it will open him up to charges of “hostile sexism”, no doubt.
We are told there are a huge percentage of male gamers who ruthlessly terrorize females with relentless harassment and then there are, as I can attest, a sizeable subset of gamers who commit extreme acts of benevolent sexism by treating gamer girls with a level of deference one would expect to be reserved only for royalty. But how many male gamers fit into the ever-narrowing category of “not sexist one way or the other”? Seeing as how male gamers, and men in general, can be accused of sexism for just about any reason these days, striving to be men who are free of the benevolent kind seems like a worthy endeavor.
A Supremely Sexist Institution That Must Be Reformed
One major institution serves to “justify women’s subordinate status to men” by portraying women as “pure and warm yet helpless and incompetent beings who require cherished protection from men,” but I have never heard it discussed in this context. This institution is structured in a way that “asserts men’s power through paternalistic affection rather than dominance, and these affectionate behaviors may be insidious because they are not necessarily negative on the surface”. It also serves to validate the “assumption that men are more competent than women and that women should be pampered or protected by men”.
What I am referring to is the penal system or, more specifically, the prison system. In correctional facilities all around the country, female inmates are housed separately from male inmates. This practice perpetuates what gamer’s favorite feminist would call the “socially constructed myth” that “women are the naturally weaker sex” which apparently “we all know is completely false”. Seeing as how women are not naturally weaker, why do women’s prisons still exist in this wonderful age of equality? If men viewing women as inherently weaker and therefore in need of protection is “benevolent sexism,” prisons that segregate based on gender are major violators of this taboo.
Those who would claim that this segregation policy is in place for good reason and if discontinued would lead to disastrous consequences should keep in mind that when it comes to “gender equality,” negative consequences are not taken into consideration.
Whether its Reddit no longer allowing salary negotiations because men benefit more from them or police departments, fire departments and the US Military all lowering standards to allow unsuited women into the life-or-death occupations, furthering the charade of portraying women as equal to men supersedes all. When the US Navy places men and women in tight spaces for long periods of time and, predictably, a large number of female enlisted become pregnant, the furthest thing on the minds of the powers that be is repealing the process.
Housing female inmates in their own separate prisons makes them look pampered, helpless, and in need or protection from men by men. It makes it seem as if they are really not equal to men in every way, which we all know is completely false after all. Housing male and female inmates together would prove that prison officials are ready to practice gender equality at an institutional level—it might even cause feminists to actually want to acknowledge the topic of prison rape.
At a time of “equality” worship when everything from the military to tech companies are subject to attack for not having enough women, the prison system remains surprisingly immune. Woman are to be seen as virtually identical to men and therefore they should be equally represented in all things, except prison. Furthermore, women are supposedly just as strong and capable as men so they can be correctional officers in men’s prisons, but not inmates.
No longer being benevolently sexist when interacting with females while gaming and ending the disgraceful practice of segregating prisons based on gender would be solid steps towards a more progressive society that recognizes that women and men only differ in their relative sex organs. Perhaps one day even the sexist notion of “never hit a girl” will rightfully be seen as pure sexism based on the false assumption that women should be protected because they are innately weaker than men.