Roosh Valizadeh
Roosh is publisher of Reaxxion. He created it to provide a space for masculine men who play video games. You can follow him on Twitter.
While I’m proud to run a video game site for a growing male readership, I want to explain personal reasons for why I barely play games today as opposed to the game (pursuing women).
I would have definitely considered myself a gamer back in the day: I owned the Nintendo, Sega Genesis, Super Nintendo, Nintendo 64, and Sony Playstation 1 before moving to PC games, mostly Warcraft 2, Starcraft, and Counterstrike. But then it came to an end rather suddenly after I graduated from college and vigorously began chasing women. There are four reasons why I quit video games for the game.
1. The reward was much larger
If you do well in a video game, you get a congratulatory screen that gives you a buzz for ten minutes. When you do well in the game and succeed in having sex with a girl, you get a feeling of ecstasy throughout your body through the human orgasm and a post-sex buzz that can last days.
Once I started getting laid with various women, I no longer felt a serotonin release in my brain after winning a video game battle or level. The reward was no longer enough to keep me playing.
2. The stakes are higher
If you die in a video game, you can simply restart the level, but in the game, a real rejection in public tests your emotional mettle, especially if you’re in the middle of a long cold streak. You have to start all over from the beginning with a new girl, without the ability to resume where you “died.”
If you only have three hours on a Friday night to make magic happen, rage quitting would mean no sex. You have to learn to control your emotions and feelings in the moment even though a female has declared she wants nothing to do with you and your penis. Your ego is not spared and because of that I believe you become a stronger man.
3. No artificial intelligence or limitations
Women give you real-time human feedback, meaning you’re always playing against opponents who have constantly shifting desires and states. You also have the ability to read the person’s entire body language in the flesh instead of being limited to them communicating through text on a screen or voice headset.
What you see in the game is really what you get, simulating life as closely as possible with no rules except that of local laws, but in a video game you’re playing in a world created by developers and so must adhere to their vision, biases, and limitations.
4. You have sex
Not to repeat point one, but the end of a “level” in the game is that you get laid. I have heard that some drugs can be more pleasurable than sex, but since I haven’t had those drugs, sex is the most pleasurable thing that I can do in this moment, assuming I don’t wear it out by having too much of it (twice a week is optimal for me). I find masturbation to be maybe only 20% as pleasurable as real sex.
If sex gives me the most bodily satisfaction, it would make sense that pursuing it would replace video games, which it has so thoroughly done.
Different strokes for different men
I’m not sharing these reasons to convince gamers to take my path, but to explain how a man who was very into video games quit. I know many men (perhaps you’re one of them) who can balance a varied sex life with video games, but I’m unable to. Playing video games doesn’t give me as much joy after playing the game for over a decade. Perhaps my synapses have been too numbed.
While the game was never quite mainstream, I think guys like myself may be a dying breed. Having the skill to cold approach women in day and night time settings is becoming less important now that online dating has been normalized with most Western girls on sites like OK Cupid and Tinder. While those sites still require you to have skill in laying women, you have to put yourself out there to a far lesser degree. You end up not interacting with girls in person until after they already approved of you, guaranteeing generally favorable experiences. Compare that to walking up to a random woman who doesn’t even know you exist and I’m sure you can understand how the rush can be much different.
As much as I believe in the purity of the game, I have fully accepted that I’m in the minority, that most men really want to put only a small amount of time chasing women while also being able to enjoy video games and other forms of entertainment. I hope that those men are finding Reaxxion to be most capable of serving their needs. In the meantime, if you know of a game that provides a high close to sex, please let me know.
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